It can be hard to realize when a relationship isn’t working, particularly when you really, really want it to work.
Far too often, relationships turn into lop-sided partnerships, where one partner ends up putting in way more effort than the other.
Sometimes it is difficult for the partner who has been doing the majority of work to admit that maybe, in the end, all that struggle wasn’t really worth it after all.
It’s better to know he or she is wrong for you now before you waste any more time and to determine that; listed below are five signs your partner may just not be suitable for you.
1. You Make Yourself The Butt Of His Jokes: The best way to make sure your partner respects you is to show him that you respect yourself. NEVER make self-deprecating jokes. Yes, humility can be attractive, but, too often, turning yourself into a target signals your partner that he doesn’t need to respect you.
2. He Doesn’t Make Plans In Advance — Or Keep Them: Not all men are fantastic planners, but if your man is constantly inviting you out at the last second, it’s not a great sign.
3. He Trashes His Ex When He Talks To You: Most people have a terrible ex (or two) in their past, but it is worth paying attention to how your man talks about his former flames. Name calling, reliving the past, or displaying anger is probably not the sign of a well-adjusted man. Try to keep in mind — if you two break up soon, would you be comfortable hearing someone talk about you in this way?
4. You Always Have To Call Or Text Him First: This can be an easy one to ignore, but it’s important. Are you always the one who calls him first? Does he only ever call or text you after you’ve initiated contact? It might sound petty, but “who calls who” does matter. If your man is constantly reacting to you rather than actively seeking out your company, it speaks to an imbalance in the relationship.
5. Your Gut Tells You Something Is Wrong: This is one of the most natural ways to feel out a red flag in a relationship, but it can often be the hardest one to pay attention to. If you’re feeling insecure or anxious about your relationship, there’s probably a problem you haven’t acknowledged yet. Your body, your instincts, your inner voice are all trying to tell you that something is OFF. And you need to listen to that.