Being single probably is one of the top problems among Nigerian girls. But only some of them understand that the problem can be not only in men. They also can change something about their selves, if they don’t want to end up alone in a company of cuddly cats.
So here are some typical reasons you can easily give up, to reduce chances of being alone:
1. Celebrity gossips
For God’s sake, stop following fake celebrity gossips and watching reality shows as crazy. These things are fake in almost every case, and, as well as developing your stupidity, they may also form unnatural life priorities.
2. Doing charges
Even if you are a self-confident and independent Nigerian lady, don’t forget about learning to cook and doing home chores. Gender equality is a good thing, but it is not a reason to turn your house into a mess. And don’t forget that Nigerian men love good cooking!
3. Less makeup
Too much makeup is not doing good for you. The truth is that lots of men are indifferent to makeup. Many of them even don’t like it at all. So it is better to forget about high school and to look more natural.
4. Don’t give your number to any guy you can
Any man would disgrace if your phone rings often and you will be laughing and chatting with other guys. You may not be a playgirl, but a guy can think that you are.
5. Wrong presentation
Some Nigerian girls try to dress attractive, but it turns out that they are ridiculous. Your dressing style determines kinds of men who are attracted to you. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.
6. Bad manners
When you want to look “attractive” or “hot” for a man, don’t think it can turn into something serious. Your wisdom, inner beauty and good manners are factors which make man stay with your, keep faithful and have long-term relations. If you rely only on your good appearance, don’t be surprised if a guy runs away after accomplishing his “evil” mission.
7. Too much advice from friends and relatives
Of course, family values a lot in Nigeria, but remember that it is you who are going to live with this person, NOT your friend or relative. Let them have their own life and you will enjoy yours!
Like working out, sex can be bad–and possibly dangerous–if you both parties haven’t warmed up properly. We know you are desperate to get to the good stuff, but foreplay can be good, too.
If you take the time and make the right moves, you will find yourself loving the pre-game as much as you do the grand finale. However, there is more to foreplay than first, second, and third bases. We spoke to real women to find out how to make foreplay creative and exciting, and what moves really get her going.
1. Talk to Me
I love a dude who can communicate during foreplay. Moaning and groaning is cool, but dirty talk is fun for both parties and typically you end up getting more/less of what you actually want in the bedroom when you can be vocal about it in a playful way. It’s a great way to get me going. –Kelly, 26
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2. Pay Attention to the Twins
It sucks when they don’t spend enough time on breasts. Most men seem more than happy to spend a good amount of time on other foreplay activities and areas, but they kind of just see the boobs, give them a quick once over, and then move on, rarely to return. It’s very sad. Give them more loving, we like it! –Jessica, 26
3. Be Gentle
I’ve had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it’s a computer mouse–like first thing, before I’m even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys, it’s a turn on. –Stephanie, 28
4. Undress Me
The act of undressing a person is in itself a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing. –Selina, 29
5. Put Your Tongue Back in Your Mouth
Tongue is fun and can be very verrrry sexy but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts…mouth (kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue…not tongue only…don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch), ears (this also can be sexy but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue), neck (neck kisses are wonderful but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school…I have to go to work with that) and lastly lady parts (very important…tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly). –Kelly, 26
The issue of cheating on a loved one is at its peak, hurting people is just criminal and kills them slowly, this time of the year is usually what I call cheating time because, one we are in a season of showoff all you have accomplished for the year, be you married, single or what ever class you belong.
The truth is that everyone must blame someone for the wrongs happening to them, but are we really looking at the right source? I would try and break it down as much as I can. The first gender I wanna tackle is the male gender, single and married.
The truth about cheating is that is a habit, and everyone knows habits are things you have done often over a long time, as a young single man, you found pleasure in going in and out of relationships because getting out was a cool way of avoiding the problems you encountered in your relationship, this ultimately meant you also kept sleeping with different women and hence you already picked up a habit, unknowingly!
Soon you began to do two or more relationships at once, instead of learning how to groom a relationship and cherish it, you schooled yourself on finding joy in screwing different women, soon you grew into a man who wanted a wife and kids which ultimately meant you wanted a home, but you have never succeeded in being with one woman or surviving hard times in a relationship, you didn’t learn how effective communication could fix issues before they become serious problems, your way of getting over issues was being with someone else.
Getting married doesn’t automatically change your habits. You should mould your character before Marriage. Now you are married, with a wife and kids, of course you have been cheating on her the minute she got pregnant or as soon she started to have stretch marks and added weight, she can’t do all she used to do to rock your bed, because your focus as always been on sex, you no longer see any reason to communicate with her and tell her what u fink, BOTH OF YOU, can do to better your sex life.
You will rather resort to your usual way of doing things, “get on the next available flight leading to no where”
Your problem dear married randy men isn’t your wife, your problem has been you, you have lacked character from a young age, you never had time to know what was required of you in a relationship, there is a thousand things to learn in a relationship, that’s why you are allowed to date before you get married, you don’t learn communication by jumping around, you don’t learn how to be satisfied with what you have by not adding value to it, you don’t learn to adapt to the changes that comes with what you have, if you never really spend time understanding how to adapt to the changes and maximize it, if you never been through a good change before, how do you find strength in going through a new one?
Forget the single girl out there, you made a vow to your wife! Fear God, be a man and keep it. if you are in a relationship, stay there! Make it work, learn, grow, don’t jump around looking for the easy way out, because you will discover that over time you have not grown in intra-personal relationships. so when you get married tomorrow when your wife no longer has all the energy for your always eager manhood, you would give her your company rather than your absence, because the reason she lost her shape, her firm breast, the reason she is no longer as good as she used to be is all because of YOU.
Secondly young men you must strive to fear God, no one likes to hear this part, there is a popular saying, it is hard to change from what you are used to doing, thou shall not commit fornication! It sounds difficult and silly but check out the adverse effect it would have on your tomorrow! If the woman you will get married to tomorrow is your first sexual encounter how would u then learn cheating at old age? How would you know that if your wife who is no longer a little girl who has sex with you all the time just to keep you, doesn’t have such time anymore because she now has ALOT to take care of, that when she doesn’t give it to you, there is a lazy girl out there waiting for a few thousands in exchange for her pride?
Men and young boys we seriously need to work on our character and relationship with God. We make women fight and hate themselves, because we are a not grown character wise, we make it look like these women are not good enough! You enjoy watching them fight over you? It isn’t because you are special its because they don’t really know who you are and what they should want!
Fornication creates the habit of always wanting sex, sex creates the urge to always want to blind give so as to avoid any resistance from the woman, that habit gives birth to not having enough….that habit has given birth to who you are now! A RANDY SERIAL CHEATING GROWN KID!
Do you ever doubt your fashion sense whenever you look at yourself in the mirror? Well, if you do, it is normal and it means you need to improve. Most of the time, you will always tell when you try on an unflattering outfit.Do you ever doubt your fashion sense whenever you look at yourself in the mirror? Well, if you do, it is normal and it means you need to improve. Most of the time, you will always tell when you try on an unflattering outfit. In order to always ensure you are in the right outfit and your fashion sense is elegant and appealing, you need to first know whether your fashion taste is okay. You need to look out for signs your clothing style is horrible and then work on that. By clothing in the right style, you will always stand out from the crowd. Your clothing style ought to add elegance and beauty to your appearance. Awareness A person’s dressing sense is only good when the person is aware of the latest happenings and trends in fashion. Staying informed places you ahead of the pack and you will always adjust on time. You should know which dresses, shirts, shoes, colors and designs are the latest trends. If you keep yourself aware of the changes in fashion tastes and trends, your fashion style will always be admirable. However, if you realize you are not aware of the current trends, then this could be a sign that your clothing style is horrible and you need to do more. Wardrobe Your wardrobe speaks a million words about your clothing style. Look at it and examine your clothing collection. Is it appealing to you? Does it include the latest designs and trends? Would you be happy to show your wardrobe to a designer or a fashionist, or even your friends? If you sincerely feel your wardrobe is unattractive to you and that you are not comfortable in most of your clothes, then it means your clothing style needs improvement. Opinion What is your opinion on fashion? Have you ever been asked a question on fashion and asked about your opinion about fashion and you were unable to answer because you do not know? If you feel your opinions on fashion are wanting and that you do not know much about it, then it means even your clothing style is wanting. Your opinion is expressed through what you wear. If you cannot have the right opinion regarding fashion, it means whatever you wear is not the best. Accessories If you do not have enough accessories, in a way it means that your clothing style could be horrible and unattractive. Any piece of cloth that is not backed by the right accessories is unappealing. Your collection of sandals, necklaces, sunglasses, scarfs, handbags and earrings goes a long way in defining your clothing style. If you are lacking in these accessories, it means your clothing style is not one to be proud of. Defects and Imperfections How often do you realize defects and imperfections in your clothing long after you have left home? If you realize you are always discovering defects and imperfections in your clothes, then it means you have a terrible clothing style. It could be even worse if it is your colleagues and friends or even total strangers who are telling you about them. If you belong here, then it means you have much to do. Your clothing style is poor and it needs improvement. Be keener on what you wear and choose your clothing well. Shopping Traits When you go for shopping, how do you go about selecting the right clothes? Are you sloppy? Are you indecisive and unaware of what you are looking for? Well, if you realize you are unable to select the right outfit for yourself, it probably means you do not know what you are looking for. Even though you can buy clothes on impulse, they should always add elegance to your fashion trend. Adopt the right shopping traits and always buy what you need. If you do not clearly know the kind of cloth you are looking for, you will always end up with the wrong cloths. Buying the wrong cloths will not help you improve your clothing style. Take your time and select the right outfits reflecting the latest fashion trends. -Life Zap
The Ghanaian beauty took to her instagram to gush about the way a special someone in her life makes her feel. Says the love is purer than sex and even TV love. Read what she wrote below;
The magic of purpose and of love in its purest form…Not television love, with its glare and hollow and sequined glint;..not sex and allure, all high shoes and high drama, everything both too small and in too much excess,..but just LOVE. Love like rain, like the smell of a tangerine, like a surprise found in your pocket. #SmilingFromEarToEar #TheWayYouMakeMeFeel”
According to study, too much alcohol can affect a man’s performance in the bedroom but the occasional pint of beer or glass of wine could actually improve male fertility and sexual function.
Research also has it that eating meat increases sperm density, compared to consuming a vegetarian or vegan diet, but drinking coffee and other caffeinated beverages makes men less likely to conceive with their partner. A group from the University of Rochester Medical Center in Rochester, New York, studied 753 men undergoing fertility treatment between 2003 and 2011, asking them about their drinking and smoking habits, as well as their sexual health and satisfaction. The average age of the men was 35. Almost three-quarters (73 per cent) of those surveyed drank alcohol, while only 16 per cent used tobacco. The results showed that drinkers reported better sexual function than teetotallers, while those who didn’t drink alcohol were more likely to report deficiencies in their erections and ability to complete intercourse. By comparison, 8.4 per cent of the smokers had moderate to severe erectile dysfunction and were more likely to be unsatisfied with sex than non-smokers. Meanwhile, researchers from Loma Linda University School of Medicine, in California, found that vegetarian men have significantly poorer sperm concentration and mobility than those who eat meat. The study compared results from sperm analyses conducted between 2009 and 2013 on 26 vegetarians, 5vegans, and 443 non-vegetarians. The vegetarians had an average sperm concentration of 51 million/millilitre compared to 70 million/millilitre for meat eaters, as well as lower average sperm mobility: 33 per cent compared to 58 per cent. Vegans’ results were similar to vegetarians’. However, the lower results were not classified in the infertile range, meaning that all the numbers fell in the normal range. Lets know how to drink responsibly…
A smaller waist can also make your bú tt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you lose weight around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist.
While some women are naturally blessed with big bú tts, some have to strive a little harder to get curvy glutes. Nevertheless, it is not an impossible feat. Here are some easy tips and tricks to make your bú tt look fuller. The right posture When you adopt the right posture especially while standing it flatters your body, thereby highlighting your curves. This will not only make your bú tt look bigger but it will also make you look taller and lean. The runway walk The right walk can also highlight your curves. Try to mimic a runway model’s walk by throwing your shoulders back and arching your lower back. Doing so will make your bú tt appear protruding, thereby creating a fuller image. This will not only help your bútt but will also slim down your torso, making your chest appear fuller. Bú tt exercises But apart from all the other tricks that make your bú tt appear fuller, exercise is the only natural way to actually make your bú tt bigger and curvier. Several exercises like squats, bú tt bridges, stiff-leg deadlifts, lunges etc. can strengthen your bútt muscles and make them larger. Exercise for a smaller waist A smaller waist can also make your bú tt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you lose weight around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist. Wear a girdle or shape wear Wearing a girdle or shapewear as this will help push the excess from your tummy down to the bú tt and hips. Apart from that it will also make your waist look slimmer, further making your bú tt look a little more prominent
If you haven’t already, check out our article on how porn is holding you back. We are very passionate about the fact that porn literally ruins most men’s lives in this generation.
Note: We’re not religious. We don’t judge. We’ve been avid Porn fans for most of our lives. But we just know the benefit of living a life without it and want you to experience it too.
1) “Real Men” Don’t Watch Porn
Yes I know he is not a “real man,” but do you think the character James Bond was watching porn in between killing bad guys and slaying gorgeous women. Do you think George Clooney and Brad Pitt were spending hours streaming porn in their trailers on the set on Ocean’s 13. There’s not a chance.
Guys who live lives that you envy, get girls you want, and carry themselves like you should, don’t waste their time jerking off to internet porn. They are ambitious. They approach women and are smooth when they do so.
You can be like this, or you can be a man who huddles up around his laptop and pathetically pleasures himself. The choice is yours.
2) Porn Makes You Lazy
Men no longer have to make any attempt at fulfilling there sexuality. It is the worst thing that ever happened to the race.
Men used to go out of their way to win the hearts of women they wanted. They used to be romantic and bold. Now they just stay home and spend countless hours surfing internet porn.
3) Porn Strips You Of Your Desire For Improvement
There is no reason to go to they gym. There is no reason to do your hair and make yourself look good. Porn will never reject you no matter how you look, and regardless of how much money you make.
When there is no primal need to impress the opposite sex in order to fill mans instinctive need for lust, men become gross, disgusting creatures, who lurk their house in their underwear.
4) Porn Causes Insecurity
Porn sets unrealistic standards for men. To be in porn men must have abnormally large “talent.” Men who watch porn consistently grow to see that as the norm and themselves as inadequate. It’s a slippery slope because this insecurity keeps men from having sex with women, in turn driving them deeper into porn use.
5) Many Men Find Porn More Stimulating Then Sex
Porn is now so fantastically HD, with every sexual fantasy imaginable at the click of a mouse. The pleasure of watching porn is starting to overtake the pleasure of actual sex, if it hasn’t already done so.
Men searching hundreds of fetishes and videos in the matter of an hour now find sex with a woman of the standard they can get (because of the porn) boring, and unpleasurable. This is a very dangerous line, as seen in the examples below.
I could link you 100 + examples easy, of just men who write about it online. If this sounds like you you really need to sort yourself out. Get on the forums, there are many people who have been through the same thing who can help you along the way.
6) Porn Causes ED
Because of reason 4 and 5, porn causes erectile function in an enormous amount of men. Porn becomes the only thing that can stimulate them because of the intense visual experience it offers the brain. This experience is unnatural, and real sex become bland and un-stimulating.
The experience of porn is so unnatural, that it actually causes the brain to release unnatural amounts of Dopamine, the reward chemical. The brain becomes so accustom to this unnatural level of Dopamine that without porn you can not achieve an erection and you straight feel like crap.
It is a proven fact that porn affects the brain the exact same way as other addictive drugs. Educate yourself on the matter.
7) You Will Find Women More Attractive
I think the greatest gift of living a porn free is how you start to perceive women around you. After months free of porn, your attraction to women will go through the roof. It is truly remarkable.
– Just the sight of a woman’s skin will turn you on
Being free of porn you start to really appreciate the beauty of women. Just the sight of a woman’s skin, or her smell will be enough to throw your attraction into overdrive. Your sexual instincts will be back where they are supposed to be, and you will crave women like never before.
– You will start to notice women you once found unattractive
Women that once were not up to your porn standards really start to pop out at you. You will start to see the beauty in women that you once overlooked because they did not have the bodies of porn stars. I find myself more and more surprised at some of the women I find attractive and for what reasons. Its is really a beautiful thing.
8) You Will Be Better With Women
This should be reason enough for anyone to stop watching internet porn. I promise you that after months of no porn, and even better, no masturbation, you will be better with women (out of necessity!). And not just a little better, but a lot better.
– You will crave women, instead of craving your favorite videos
Have you ever gotten that incredible sexual urge that comes out of nowhere. To a regular porn viewer to first thing they do is head to the internet. To men who don’t watch porn, the first thing they do is head to their cell phone to call a real girl. Or they go out and meet one.
– You will find it easier to talk to women
Many men who give up porn find that they start to interact much smoother with women. A lot of their anxiety towards the opposite sex fades and they start to feel more confident and smooth.
9) Sex Will Be More Satisfying
Instead of having ED and not finding sex as satisfying as porn, you will be the opposite. After months without porn in your life your pleasure for sex will skyrocket.
– You will have better, harder erections with women
Without porn numbing your sexual stimulation, just the touch of a woman will be enough to get you up and going. Actual sex will feel so different than it ever did. So much more powerful and pleasurable.
– Your intimacy levels during sex will be something that you never experienced before
If you are like most men who started porn at an extremely young age, you have probably never even experienced intense intimacy. You have sexually numbed yourself from porn for years, and your first sexual experience free from porn will be like a sexual awakening.
You will also be much better at sex itself. You will be more in touch with a woman’s body, and your own. You won’t have any performance anxiety issues and your sexual freedom and spirituality will increase.
Sex can be the greatest experience there is, you just need to lose the porn.
10) You Will Simply Be A Better Version Of Yourself
Its a fact that if you can give up porn you will be a better version of yourself.
– You will think clearer and be less stressed
– You will find women more attractive
– You will be better with women
– Your sex life will improve
– You will have more energy
Try it. If it doesn’t work, porn will be waiting for you right where you left it.
There’s so many ways you will improve by just dropping one thing out of your life its incredible. It seems so obvious and crazy that not everybody does it. But porn is so addicting and drawing which is why most men will never quit. But you can.
You can have an advantage over millions of men in the world. You can have a better life.
Sean Russell is a true entrepreneur. After years of passionately improving his own life, he created MenProvement to help millions of men do the same. Visit his website HERE. This article is culled from MenProvement.
Allowing your ego becloud your senses in a relationship or marriage will make you lose the essence of what true love is and blind you to the good in your partner. I hope single ladies learn from Adaeze!